The Pain Stops:
when you stop looking at the
person you love as the person you love, and you begin to see them, not
as a partner, a lover, or a best friend, but as a human being with the
strengths and weaknesses and even the core of a child.
The Pain Stops:
when you begin to accept that what you would do in a circumstance is
not what they would do, and that no matter how much you try, they have
to learn their own lessons, and they have to touch the stove when it's
hot, just as you did, to learn that it is much better when it is cold.
The Pain Stops:
when your longing for them gets slowly replaced by a desire to get
away, when making love to them no longer makes you feel cherished, when
you find yourself tired of waiting for the moments where the good will
truly outweigh the bad, and when at the end of the day you can't count
on their arms for comfort.
The Pain Stops: when you
start to look inward and decide whether their presence is a gift or a
curse, and whether when you need them, they cause more heartache than
bliss.
The Pain Stops: when you realize that you
deserve more than they offer and stop blaming them for being less than
you wish. When the smile of a stranger seems more inviting and kind, and
you remember what it's like to feel beautiful, and you remember how
long it has been since your lover whispered something in your ear that
only the two of you would know.
The Pain Stops: when
you forgive them for their faults and forgive yourself for staying so
long. When you know that you tried harder than you ever tried before,
and you know in your heart that love should not be so much work.
The Pain Stops:
when you start to look in the mirror and like who you see, and know
that leaving them or losing them is no reflection of your beauty or your
worth.
The Pain Stops: when the promise of a new
tomorrow is just enough to start replacing the emptiness in your heart,
and you start dreaming again of who you used to be and who you will
become.
The Pain Stops: when you say goodbye to what
never really was, and accept that somewhere in the fog you may or may
not have been loved back. And you promise yourself never again to lay in
arms that don't know how to cherish the kindness in your heart.
The Pain Stops: When you are ready.
Amen!
~MaryDeluxe
