Sunday, September 28, 2014

My First Date

Yes, you read the title right...I have had my first date since leaving Mr. A.S.S.Y.  and regaining my freedom and my sanity.  Yes, please congratulate me because this was a really big deal in my little world.   It wasn't an uncomfortable thing for me to do at all, since I've been getting to know this fella in a friendly way all Summer.  When he finally moved things in that direction, it wasn't a completely terrifying thought, because I knew I always had fun being in his company.  But if you would have asked me about dating last December-April...I would have told you to go fuck yourself, because I was never gonna do that again.  But here it is September and I'm whistling a different tune.  That's where the really big deal part comes in.  Go me!!

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So, I know you are all just dying to know how my Saturday night date went?!  Well, the whole date was great but my three favorite parts were 1. locking him out of the car and laughing while he was pumping gas as I sat inside the car ( oh yes, I'm evil) 2. holding his hand 3. the way he kissed me goodnight. What?? Were you expecting me to say...the food?? :)

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Then he left and I proceeded to have a good, short cry in the shower.  It wasn't that I was sad or upset,  I just never in my life thought I would be where I am.  You see, I'm a very loyal kind of girl.... and even though I'm legally separated, working on my divorce, and haven't seen Mr. A.S.S.Y. since March, it still felt a little weird.  It just felt like I did something really, really bad...and then I realized it was really, really fun and I would love to do something really, really fun again on another date!  Go me!!

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I know you're all thinking, Wow MaryD, that sounds great!! But wait a sec because I haven't gotten to the part where I run away yet!  And yes, there is that part to tell.  You see, through a few text message exchanges later that week, my "friend" that I went on the date with, disclosed that he has  2 ladies he "talks to" to kill the time as he waits for his "keeper" girl.  But one of them he was getting ready to "kick to the curb" because she was nothing but "drama".  Can you say OUCH!  Can you say stomach twisted into a knot.  Can you say flash back to December 6, 2013, when I read some text messages that made me feel the same way, just more in a "hey my fucking life as I know it is over and I might as well walk out into a snow bank, close my eyes, and just go to sleep" kinda way.  Then I just let myself sit with that uncomfortable feeling all day.  I thought well, at least he told me, he could have easily just hide it from me, but I do wish he would have told me before the date, before I let myself like him.  So, now what do I do?  Do I want to be the number "3" girl he "talks to" to kill the time as he waits for his "keeper" girl?  Do I want to get "kicked to the curb" when I annoy him to much?  My answer... NO, I FUCKING DON'T....if I wanted to be that to someone, I would have stayed married to Mr. A.S.S.Y.


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So what did MaryD do?  She pulled the bell and got of the bus!  This is the part where I run away!! Yes, I feel sad and disappointed but I also feel kinda glad, because I learned something really important by knowing him.  I discovered my love for myself again.  It's still there people!! I deserve someone that protects my feelings, that thinks it's great just seeing me and isn't worried about what else might be out there that's better!  I'm irreplaceable and some day some one is going to realize that...and it's gonna be when they have me and not when I'm gone!  And I'm gonna love locking him out of the car and laughing when he's pumping gas, holding his hand, and kissing him good night too...but the best part is, he'll feel the exact same way about me too!

So, that's the story of my first date.  Everyone has a life to live and everyone can choose to live it anyway they want to.  I'm not here to judge anyone.  At another point in my life, maybe I would have been okay with sharing and being someone's "something to do" but at the place I'm at now and with what I've been through, I'm just not.  And that's okay too! 

XOXO,
MaryDeluxe


All fun cartoons borrowed from.....Comically Vintage
P.S. Dear lawyers the definition of the Acronym Mr. A.S.S.Y. means Mr. Assembly because he liked to put things together....yup that's exactly what that means no need to send a letter! :)

Monday, September 22, 2014

Goodbye Summer....

You were an amazing time of year for me once again.  I can always count on Summer to re-energize my spirit and send me off in new creative directions.  No other season gives me the wonderful mental boost quite like Summer does.  Summer I will miss you!

Omg potatoes!!! Happiest day ever!!! 
I grew Veggies and ate my veggies and shared my veggies!!

Just a girl and her bike riding a path to no where!  Weeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
I road my bike!

I love vintage tractors with suicide knobs and tires almost as tall as me...my grandpa would be proud! 
I fell in love with a few tractors.

My favorite little grumpy old man...sleeps on the pillow behind my head every night. Been with me for 17 1/2 years... I love him so much!
I lost something I will never be able to replace.
He was the best thing that has ever happened in my life.  

I also have a thing for cheesy vintage light up pictures....the cats are not amused 
I bought stuff I didn't need just for fun!

I saved the vintage :) Happy Saturday! 
I glowed...I nested....I rested....I met new friends...I hung out with old friends...I spent time with myself....I licked my wounds and healed my soul just a bit more...I spent time with my family.... I gave and got lots of hugs...I let go...I laughed more than I cried (even though I cried for days)...  I remembered how to love...I grieved my losses...I proclaimed that all this me time is absolutely awesome...I got a new nickname from a special fella....I jumped through flaming hoops of fire...(okay just kidding I didn't really do that)...I did however start running again (slow like a turtle but I'm moving so who cares turtles are cute!)

Thank you Summer you came along just when I needed you!  See ya next year Summer!!

XOXO,
MaryDeluxe







 

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Happiness Is Just A Paint Color Away!

Hello DeluxeVille I missed you :) 

"It's your road, and yours alone.
Others may walk it with you,
but no one can walk it for you."
~Rumi

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I totally dig this metal mirrored tray I picked up last weekend with @kindamama for $1! 

Thumbs up for divorce!!!

~When one door closes,
sometimes you want to get a hammer and nails
to make sure that Bitch stays shut. 

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Expect nothing
Appreciate everything.

xoxo,
~MaryDeluxe

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Tiki Gods, Veggies, & the Wall of Shame...

The Tiki Gods were smiling on me at auction last weekend and I got to come home with two very awesome wooden carved tikis. They look fab hanging out in the garden by the fish pond. I can't say I've ever run across wooden carved tikis at auction before, so this was quite the find. The son of the family said his Father spent a lot of time on vacation in Key West, so I'm guessing they might have come from there? Where ever they came from, I plan to enjoy them for a long while! 

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When she begins to rock...Honey, I begin to roll....

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My garden haul from my garden at my moms! 

The veggie gardens have been doing great and as you can see above, giving us lots of yummy colorful produce!  
 
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I still have not finished painting Deluxeville and it still remains a sea of boring beige.  As you can see, I did start removing plaster from the wall behind my stairs.  Removing plaster is a very messy pain in the butt.  My progress has been slow.  I refer to this eye sore as my wall of shame! What can I say, just like my life, my wall is also a work in progress.  But I am most certain that very shortly my wall will be finished and so will a certain chapter in my book of life!  I'm looking forward to finishing them both and getting some color back into my life!

XOXO,
MaryDeluxe


Monday, July 7, 2014

The Gatchellville Store Adventure Again!

If you live anywhere remotely close to The Gatchellville Store and haven't yet visited...well then, not much more for me to say other then you have no idea what you are missing!  Seriously!! Really!! I mean come on...do I need to rent a bus and go pick everyone up?  I can do that if you want but you're going to have to help me pay for the bus!

Now, if you have been a faithful DeluxeVille reader, you will remember my first visit to the store back in 2009...The Gatchellville Store Adventure, yeah I know my post titles are so original!  Well, I'm happy to report it's gotten even better!  I didn't think it was possible...they proved me wrong!

The Gatchelville Store! I'm going back... Like soon for more barkcloth! 

"With over 6000 square feet, The Gatchellville Store has a bit of something for everyone.
Created by husband and wife, Carroll Swam and Linda Sarubin, and combining their vastly different collecting tastes, ( his, country..and hers, city ), the store is the kind of place you can lose yourself in for hours at a time, just wandering among the thousands of interesting items.
Country furniture, vi...ntage musical instruments, old books, unusual ephemera, pottery, advertising...the town's old post office, circa 1900, is filled with Carroll's impressive collection of antiques tools. 

Linda's interests run towards jewelry, textiles, and a world class collection of thousands and thousands of vintage and antique buttons. Circa 1850 - 1950.
Two little dogs sit in thrones in the center of the store, ordering customers to pet them, while bluegrass-and blues-music plays throughout. 

By the way, The Gatchellville Store began its life around the time of the Civil War when a Union solider named Mathew McCall came home from the war to set up a mercantile and dry goods business in Gatchellville. He was only 19 years of age....and now almost 150 years later, Mr. McCall's Name is still on the stained glass transom above the front door. 

When Linda and Carroll bought the store in 2002, it had been closed since the 1940s. They are the 4th owners to operate the store since the Civil War.
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Went to the awesome Gatchelville Store today! 

So, what did MaryDeluxe find this time at Gatchellville?  I'm sure this is the question you are all pondering at this very moment...ok just humor me and pretend like it was!   Well kiddos, I went with this wonderful barkcloth fabric.  As a person who use to design fabric back in another one of my life times, I really like vintage textiles! A LOT!  I really like mixing them together too...textures, colors, and patterns...makes no difference to me.

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To continue with my theme of textile purchases, I also grabbed this old rainbow rag runner while I was there!  Love the colors and after cutting off the bad ends, was a perfect fit for my kitchen! 
Later that evening we christened the rug with popcorn treats and hairballs!  I had nothing to do with the hairball part of that equation!


Lol! Happy Caturday! 

In other fun news...if you want to follow me on IG you can find me as some of you already know under _MaryDeluxe_ !

Until next time!

XOXO,
MaryDeluxe

Sunday, June 22, 2014

Hello Summer!!

June came around and brought with it my happiness!
Hello happy! 
It's so nice to see you again!
Thank you June :)


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I'm done grieving.
I survived!
Thank you all for your love!
XOXO,
~MaryDeluxe

Sunday, June 8, 2014

Make Your Own Happiness

“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.” ~Steve Maraboli

Amen, Mr. Steve!

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On December 7, 2013, I looked in the mirror, rubbed my tired, puffy red eyes and promised myself that no matter what I had to do, what ever journey I had to embark on, that I would be okay...that I deserved better....that I would love myself again no matter if someone else loved me or not.  That's how my journey started, I got tired of being afraid to do what I knew in my soul I should have done sooner.  When someone shows you who they really are, believe them.  Don't waste your precious time in life trying to persuade them to be otherwise or waiting for them to give you what you need when it's obvious that they can't.  No matter how painful, spread your wings and fly.  Pain has taught me to enjoy everyday, Pain has taught me that happiness can be as simple as a bowl of fresh strawberries.  Pain has taught me that no matter what, always be true to the person that you are. Pain has taught me  to look at life and people differently.  Acceptance is a wonderful gift and so is forgiveness.  Everyone has their own journeys in life to take, always stay true to yourself and accept that some times someone else's journey is not yours to take. 

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My plan is to spend my Summer in braids, vintage skirts, and aprons with dirty feet from digging in the dirt.  Now that makes this girl happy!  

My beast... Another long day at the vet hospital...not a very good prognosis...it's kinda a wait and see now...all I can say is love what you have while you have it, there are no guarantees with anything in life....he has been one of the best beasties to  
Don't ever be afraid to love.  Loss is just a part of life, don't let it stop you from loving...it's worth ever bit of pain it might bring into your life.  When you have love, enjoy every fucking second of it being in your life, love with no regrets.  Trust me, even when it goes badly, it's worth every wonderful moment.

It's my favorite time of year! It's strawberry pickin time! :)
Eat more strawberries...unless of course you're allergic...try blueberries instead!  The point is, enjoy the simple things...the calmness of a starry night as you lay on a blanket and ponder at how small we all really are and that in the grand scheme of every day life what's really, really important?  Yup, eat the strawberries!

XOXO,
MaryDeluxe

“Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.”
―Steve Maraboli