Sunday, October 17, 2010

Random MaryDeluxe Thoughts.....

  • I know it's been awhile since I've written something worthy of reading on this here blog. I have to say that this lack of creative thinking and writing is mostly due to my inability to put any sort of coherent thoughts together past 3 pm. Yes, my damn job is sucking the life outta me. Any body else have one of those soul sucking jobs out there too? My teaching schedule is packed full and I really have no time to breath, pee, think, or sit down in my day. 7 1/2 more months till the end of May then I'm done (who knows what the heck I'll do next but I'll be done where I'm at)...I just keep telling myself that and it helps me keep going.

  • I've been thinking a lot lately about just when to put my house up for sale? In my perfect plan, I would love to be completely moved out and living with the Sgt by May 31 st. But that leaves me guessing with today's real estate market, just when to put my house up for sale to make that happen. If I sell it to soon, where will I live till school is out the end of May? If I sell it after May, I'm paying a mortgage on a house I'm not living in any longer and I would hate to waste my money like that. I guess it's better to sell early then late...I can always live in a van down by the river!! As far as the wedding date goes, we're not sure yet, but we do know there's not going to be a wedding. We plan on a random act of spontaneity! Who needs the stress of planning a wedding?? I don't! Plus, I've never been the kind of gal who has ever dreamed about one or wanted one....blah not my thing. I'd rather put the money into renovating the kitchen...a better return on your investment if you ask me! :)
The Sgt hearts MaryDeluxe
  • When I think about how much my single life will be changing (selling my house, moving away from my family, starting a new job), I feel a little sad and also scared.... but at the same time, excited to start a new adventure in my life with the Sgt. I get a lot of overwhelming thoughts running through my brain from time to time....but not one doubt about what we're doing. Which I think is really amazing! I spent 6 years in a relationship and had constant doubts about the guy I was with...which is why I finally ended it 3 years ago. My thoughts were...I'd rather be alone and happy living my life the way I wanted to instead of being with someone who wasn't right for me. One of the best decisions I've ever made for myself. Somebody told me once a long time ago, when you meet the right person, you'll just know.. there won't be doubts. I laughed at that statement, but they were right. I'm glad that I took my time to find the right bus and never settled for the wrong one or tried to make the wrong bus the right one for me. I think too many people make those mistakes and do that in life. There's a lot to be said for being single, living a happy life, and keeping the faith that by being true to who you are, you'll attract the right person. So, keep the faith bus stop goddesses and don't dwell on what you think you might be missing in your life but instead appreciate the awesomeness of what you currently have! Life is always changing and you just never know what might happen.
  • This awesome 1950's sofa set is coming up for sale at auction! I know rockin right! Looks a little rough but nothing a throw pillow can't cover up...tehe!




  1. i haven't congratulated you on the engagement yet. so congrats!!! i am SOOOO happy for you!! sarge seems like a great guy :)

  2. Yes so many new things happening can be scary, but exciting too!

    I agree, when Hubby and I were engaged I had no doubts, and on my wedding day I had no doubts either, I was nervous about tripping and things like that, but not one doubt about him, I was just happy and excited! And we are about to celebrate our 17th wedding anniversary in november (he was 22 and I was 23) and we are more in love than ever!! :O)

    Oh that couch set is freakin awesome! Drool! Is the that PINK and black? (the other white) oh I would so get that!

  3. as one who has taken a leap of faith, packed her bags and flown the is indeed a scary thing. in the end, your happiness is worth it!

  4. First up, oh my on the sofa, how fabulous is that!

    I'm glad you have no doubts, worries are fine, of course you're anxious about moving away, but it's nice to know that you know it's right! It's a great feeling huh?

  5. That sofa set is amazing, will you go for it?

    You are so right about not settling, I was in a relationship for 10 years and unhappy almost all of the time I was in it, but scared to be by myself. I was instantly happier from the very day I left, and being single was so, SO much better. And now I am with someone who truly makes me happy, I so wish I could go back and tell my younger self to stop putting up with unhappiness as a way of life!

  6. your words about being with the wrong person brought a few tears to my eyes, I to have been there and your words are so very true, infact they woke me up again, nothing like seeing it in black and white so to speak. I am a great believer in what will be will be, but we need to make those changes happen. Good luck with everything, its so exciting the next stage for you although scary at the same time. But it will be exciting and worth it and your be smiling all the way. Take care Dee

  7. I think its amazing how quickly things have turned round for you. It it amazing how you have shared you life with us, blog stalkers.

  8. It takes a mighty good man to be better then no man at all and it looks like you found him. I'm so pleased for you!

  9. Kara....Hey girl! Where have you been?? I will go stalk your new blog now! :)

    Erin...Wow 17 years and married in your early 20's...that really says something about your love and commitment to each other...Bravo!

    Pixie...It is one big belly flop of faith isn't it! Ha!

    STM...Can't say I ever felt like this before with anyone else and yes, it's quite the amazing feeling!

    Penny...I know, if we only knew then what we know now, we would have saved a lot of tears!

    Delia..."what will be will be...but we need to make those changes happen" love it and it's so true...the only control we have is over ourselves and it's our responsibility to find our own happiness and not expect others to give it to us...that is not true happiness and never lasts.

    Moni...Hmmm I wouldn't say finding my Mr happened quickly. After my break up three years ago I was in relationships at different times with two other fellas who just weren't right for me. What I think is amazing is the fact that I met someone that I want to be with forever. That to me is absolutely mind blowing...never thought it would happen to me and that I would just be a single gal forever...and I actually got to the point were I accepted that idea this past winter. So, it's very funny to me that once I stopped looking for true love, I find it??? Go figure!

    JoAnn...Thank you...hahaha

  10. Such an exciting time for you MD! I think it's true to say that when you meet the right person, you just know... I met the right person and I just knew... but I was not his right person and now my heart is broken. I hope there is another right one out there somewhere! x

  11. Just came across your blog and I LOVE it! So much I had to link it to mine.

  12. Congratulations on your engagement. May you have a long and happy life together.

    When you are talking about selling your house you may be able to have some control over when the possession date would take place. It might be worth setting up a meeting with a realtor and discussing your plans. I don't think you would be obligated to sign the realtor based on a first meeting.

    With your wedding plans...follow your heart. Are you planning a trip?

    I have been to family gatherings and such after a wedding has taken place. I think with myself I'm never as concerned with being at the actual wedding - but I do like the opportunity to wish the newly wedded couple well. If you think your families might appreciate something like that I would keep it in mind.


  13. Isn't it always the way?You stop looking for something & then you find it:)
    The sgt luvs mary heart is so sweet!

  14. I truly believe that it is important that one should enjoy what one does for a living. I spend 8 to 10 hours a day at work and many more hours during my "free time" dedicated to my profession. There is no way I would commit so much time and energy to a career that I did not enjoy. Life is too short to spend it in misery. I believe that it is important to make the changes needed to live the life you would like to live.

    Once upon a time I came to the realization that when I was not looking for it, it was likely to find me. It seems as if Love works that way.


  15. Fleur....Completely his loss and in the long wrong you will find something much better. You just don't think or see it right now...but I promise you, you will. Keep the faith, things happen for reasons we might not understand at the time.

    Roboti...Thanks for dropping by! :)

    Thanks for your thoughts Michelle. Yes, honeymoon trip...can't miss that one!

    Mrs Cleaver... :) you said it and I never believed it but it's true.

    TofE...What's up dude?? Yes, it's time for me to go... walmart greeter here I come!!! :)


  16. Are you thinking of possibly a different school or another career alltogether? I held out for a couple of years despite the advice of others and 18 years ago found the site that was and is right for me when an opening popped up. It sounds as if your school, from top to bottom, is a quagmire. Time to go.
    I had a stressful start to the school year with mom in the hospital and things not looking good at all. She has had terminal cancer for 3 1/2 years and things were looking pretty bleak with new complications, buuuuuuuut she's a badass and
    one hell of a fighter and for now things are greatly improved. The point to this is that my co-workers, all of'em are so supportive, they made life at work so much easier. That is what it should be all and for me is!


  17. I have been so out of the loop lately, not checking in on my regular blogs. What do I see today?!?! You're engaged!!!!!!!!!!! That is so flippin fabulous, congratulations!!!!!! I am so happy for you!!!!